Enticing Your Sexual Life

Delicious sex comes in many shapes and forms. Save the penetration for another day, and delve deeper into sexual play and intimacy with your girl with some of these activities. Challenge yourself by creating a sensual environment where both of you can try new things and practice other erotic activities.
Dirty Talk and Erotic Storytelling

A dirty story is a fun and sexy way to spend time with your lover, and it may provide you both with some new ideas and a bit of mental stimulation. A story can be told almost anywhere: in the car, over the phone, via e-mail or letter, or even in bed. If you're not comfortable making up stories on the fly, find a magazine or website that has fiction that suits your tastes and read it to your partner. Keep in mind that females prefer lots of foreplay, especially in their imaginations. A story that heads straight for intercourse is the same as in real life, and it probably won't get the desired result. The story is just a story for its own sake; there doesn't have to be an “ending” or an orgasm for either of you. It is simply a very enjoyable way to share sex, perhaps without even touching each other.


Sensual Massage

Massaging your partner is among the most coveted activities in a relationship. A sensual massage, however, is a slightly different kettle of fish because it is relaxing and sexually stimulating at the same time.

There are very few rules to giving a sensual massage, but generally, slow and sexy movements are key. Take your time, use a scented essential oil that has aphrodisiac properties, such as ylang-ylang, and keep the lights low. Glide over her skin using firm but gentle pressure with your hands or whichever body part you want to use, such as arms, chest, stomach, legs or feet. Just make sure to cover every inch of her body and avoid her hot spots until the final act. The idea is to make her want you to touch her hot spots. Take your time and create anticipation, and she surely will want your touch.

Touching each others' bodies releases mood-enhancing endorphins, and no matter what happens afterward, the body feels good simply for having been nourished from the outside in. Also, don't expect a sensual massage in return; it's the last thing you feel like doing after receiving one.
Role Playing and Costumes

When it comes to sex, role playing gives us more options; if you are normally quite reserved, you can live a little and be a bit more daring. If your girl is normally shy, she can unleash the dominatrix within. The personas we can morph into with erotic role play allow us to significantly expand our boundaries. Your girlfriend may not like being tied up as “herself,” but her exotic dancer alter ego might love it. With some creative role play, our rigid rules can change.

Role playing becomes even more exciting if you include costumes; women love dressing up. Costumes give us the opportunity to actually get into character, which releases many of our inhibitions. Role playing with costumes is fun, entertaining and liberating. You can get into all sorts of debauchery when you are not really yourself.


Phone Sex

This is an old favorite, and it is very useful if you and your lover have to be apart. Of course, since getting off with your girl on the phone is a really fun and dirty way to play, you don't have to actually be too far apart; separate rooms will suffice. Our aural senses are very sensitive to erotic sounds; as a result, panting, heavy breathing and moans trigger a heightened sexual response. Phone sex also allows a bit more freedom because you are alone and can therefore do as you please as far as masturbation goes. Physically, the pressure is off since she is responsible for herself and you for yourself. The topics you choose to discuss are up to you, but unless she starts it, stay away from anything involving family members, animals (don't even go there) and other women that you fantasize about.
Mutual Masturbation

This is one of the sexiest and most intimate things you can do with a lover, though the situation has to be right and you both have to be comfortable with each other. Getting yourself off in front of another person is not always easy, but it is very enjoyable once you're in the swing of things. The key is to be uninhibited, though overcoming this can be part of the thrill. Give her the time and space she needs, and do the same for yourself. If you feel nervous, take your time to become comfortable. If it'll help, light a candle and drink some wine. Making love without touching another person is a strangely delicious experience. Mutual masturbation can be a combined effort, and it helps to give and receive visual and vocal stimulation. There are no rules (except no penetration); so play and be played.

There are so many fun ways to experience eroticism and there is really no excuse for having boring sex. Take a break from the norm and get a bit dirty. Using your imagination sparks more ideas and fun, and once you start playing around, you will find that a whole range of other activities are just as much fun as intercourse. Open your mind and body, and you shall reap the rewards of a healthy, fun and open-minded sex life.

By:AskMen.com

Should I make a sex tape?

CAM you believe it? Eva Longoria in a sex tape!

The Desperate Housewives star fears saucy footage of her and hubby Tony Parker has hit the Net after thieves stole a tape from her home.

And she’s not the only hot star to see her film fumbles go public.

From Paris Hilton to Pamela Anderson, the A-list can’t help capturing their naughty romps on camera.

So why do they find taping their tawdry moments so appealing? “Voyeurism can be a real turn-on,” reckons Sun online sexpert Sarah Hedley.

“There’s a voyeur in all of us and when we’re the star of the show, it’s even more thrilling.”

Sarah also sees home movies as an alternative to porn for some women. “Seeing your partner turned on by the perfect women in a porn film can be intimidating.

“So watching footage of the two of you together can seem like a safer, more intimate choice.”

“It’s also a nice little bit of memorabilia for long-term couples – the chance to look back and remember in years to come just how healthy your sex life used to be.”

Healthy’s all well and good, but what about the risk of others seeing your earth-moving memento? Surely sexy vids are more hassle than they’re worth?

“Not if you do the job properly,” reckons Sarah. “If you take the time and precautions to get it right, I see nothing wrong with shooting a sex tape at all.

So if foxy footage sounds like your bag, follow Sarah’s golden rules to playing it safe.

1) TRUST IS A MUST

The first rule is to make sure you trust your partner implicitly.

And by that I mean you trust him enough to marry him or are married to him already.

If you’re just a few months into a relationship and fancy a sexy thrill, this is not for you.

Remember, if a short-term fling sours, you could find your romps on the net if they’re in the hands of a bitter ex.

2) NEVER FILM FOOTAGE ON A MOBILE

I would never ever do anything on a mobile phone as it’s likely to end up on You Tube.

There are so many ways to hack information from mobiles and it’s so easy to forward footage that you’d be mad to attempt nookie in front of your Nokia.

3) ANONYMITY IS BEST

If you’re going to go through with filming your romp, it’s safer and possibly sexier if you can’t be identified.

Agree with your partner that you’ll film with your faces out of shot or why not try wearing a sensual mask or costume to conceal your identity?

Remember to conceal any revealing tattoos you may have too!

4) PLAN THE ACTION

Remember: this is supposed to be a turn-on and you want to look your best.

Spend a few moments before you flick the ‘On’ switch working out the best camera angles and sorting out a flattering light. It’s not supposed to be a horror show!

5) DRAW UP A CONTRACT

There’s a great book by Anna Span called Erotic Home Videos. It’s full of sexy advice and it also features a contract you and your partner can draw up.

You can copy and both sign this contract (with witnesses to sign too if you can cope with the embarrassment) to ensure that neither of you makes the footage public.

Of course, this won’t stop an ex from sharing the film (or a thief from stealing it) but it will mean you can legally sue him if he does so against your wishes!

6) KEEP THE TAPE

The only way to be really sure your man doesn’t show off your celluloid sauce is to keep the only copy.

... AND IF YOU’RE STILL NOT SURE?

With all of the above in place, there’s still the chance a thief will take off with your raunchfest.

If you’re worried your sexy footage will get in the wrong hands, agree to record over it with your partner the moment you’ve watched it.

You can also try taking naughty snaps on your camera or if it’s the voyeuristic aspect that turns you on, perhaps get your man to put on a sexy show for you in real time.

Some memories can last a lifetime ...

By:BELLA BATTLE

Jug Fever!!!

4 Reasons Quickies Are the Best Kind of Sex

Not everyone has the luxury of an hour to devote to sex every day, or even every week. But 15 minutes? Now that we can handle! In this excerpt from her book Quickies, iVillage sex expert Tracey Cox explains why quick sex is the best sex to...

...Perfect Your Hand Job

The humble hand job comes into its own ‑- literally ‑- during sex in public places. Apart from kissing, using your hands is the lowest-risk sexual activity ‑- and since it's how lots of us masturbate, the genitals respond nicely to the right type of touch. "Right" usually means she should do it harder and he should go softer (it's what each sex is most used to). Not much time? Go for a superfast orgasm for her by positioning her (sitting or standing) in front of you. Rest one palm on the top of her pubic bone and press down firmly, pushing forward, pulling back or moving in circles. Next, insert (well-lubricated) fingers: one inside her vagina, the other in her anus. It's a three-way she won't mind you suggesting ‑- or repeating. Blow him away (in all senses) by trying this technique: Twist your hands in opposite directions as you move up and down (one clockwise, one counterclockwise) or make two fists around his penis, hold them centrally, then move one downward and the other upward. Use one-word questions to ask for feedback (harder? faster?) so he only has to answer yes or no. Keep the rhythm constant, building up to a fast speed, then slow it down dramatically before moving back up again. Repeat several times, letting him hover on the brink, before tipping him over with a decided flourish.

...Rediscover Kissing

Romance isn't hijacked by time. A 30-second meeting of mouths is all it takes to turn a quickie into sweet, tender lovemaking. Kissing is the first thing to go in a long-term relationship: Resurrect it and you'll save more than just your sex life. But it's not just dulled passion or overfamiliarity that stops some couples from puckering up. If you actually don't like the way your partner kisses, you'll be more than happy to plunk it in the "things we used to do, but what long-term couple still does?" basket. There's a simple but effective game you can try to fix this. It's called "kisses around the world," and it's best suggested when you're both a little giggly and buzzed and snuggling up after a great night out. Give your partner a little peck, then say "I wonder if people kiss differently around the world? I wonder how Eskimos really kiss. Probably like this..." Then proceed to kiss like an Eskimo, rubbing noses with him. He'll laugh, so it's easy enough from there to say "What about Italians, I think they'd kiss like this..." before you launch into that one. "How would a French person kiss?" you ask playfully, letting him in on the game. From there it's simply a case of saying "God, that French/Italian/Swedish kiss was hot. Can you do it again?" The next time he kisses you, whisper, "Do it Italian style" and voila! You've transformed an abysmal kisser into a great one ‑- with no one's feelings hurt in the process! If you can't reach each other's lips during certain quickie positions, bite, kiss or lick the body part closest to you. The more aroused we are, the more dulled our pain receptors ‑- the reason why a nip on the neck feels erotic during sex but just hurts the rest of the time.

..Up Your Portfolio

The average couple alternates between the same three to four positions each time they have intercourse, despite there being more than 600 documented positions to choose from. Before you nominate yourselves for Sad Couple of the Year by fitting right into this category, seek refuge in the fact that virtually all are variants of five basic positions anyway. Besides, certain positions suit certain situations ‑- and moods. Tackling that upside-down one that makes the blood whoosh straight to your head could be just the thing when you're feeling energized and adventurous. Not so appealing when you've got a thumping headache and have just worked a 12-hour day. Quickies provide a great way to try out new, more difficult positions so you can expand your position portfolio. If you don't have to stay at it for long, you're much more likely to attempt something more challenging! Too tired to do anything but missionary? Spice up an old favorite by adding a twist: During intercourse, try mirroring your mouth action to his thrusting, so your tongues are imitating the action of his penis. Once you've mirrored the thrusting speed, you can slow him down or speed him up as you please by simply altering your tongue speed. He'll subconsciously try to keep pace.

...Make the Most of Her on Top

Given that thrusting is usually his job, some women aren't confident masters of the old in-and-out and struggle using just their thigh muscles. Again, far less threatening if she knows it's just a quickie and she's not in it for the long haul; it's much more likely she'll give it the old college try. Next time, get her to make like a frog and squat so her feet are on the floor ‑- it allows much more leverage. Switch her over so she's on top when she's feeling body-proud, horny as hell and in the mood to be boss. If she needs further convincing tell her this: Rear-entry or any position where she's sitting or squatting over you works best to stimulate a patch of supersensitive skin about two-thirds of the way up from the vaginal entrance on the front wall of the vagina. Nicknamed the "A" spot, it's way up there and hard to reach with fingers, but deep penetration positions sometimes do the trick. Once she's had her (first) orgasm, switch back into missionary. It's got a goody-goody, prissy reputation, but there's a reason why most of us use it a lot of the time: There's full body and eye contact and you can touch faces and hold hands. An intimate ending to a lusty start. Slide a pillow under her hips to turn predictable into predictably pleasurable.

By:Tracey Cox