5 Ways to Get Frisky on a Cold Night

Forget hot chocolate. These racy sex taboos will not only heat up a cold night; they'll have you wishing for a blizzard! That way your office will call a snow day and you can do it all over again tomorrow. (Anyone who says chocolate is better than sex has things all wrong.)

Play Dress Up

Nurse outfits, baby-doll lingerie, catwoman suits… the idea of playing dress up, or fantasy role-playing, turns some women on — and makes others roar with laughter. Yes, you do pay through the nose for these outfits at sex shops, and they're not terribly well made either. But if you have the money and you're game for experimenting, why not?

If you're less than convinced, shift your thinking from traditional (read: expensive) role-play outfits to simply putting together a sexy, home-spun ensemble. High heels? Check! Stockings? Check! Long, black, satin gloves and a push-up bra? Check! And that's really all you'll need to be totally sexed up without even feeling (terribly) silly.

If you're still too shy to suggest the idea of role-playing, wear the outfit under a little black dress and let him peel off the layers to find the surprise underneath. (You can always pull on the gloves afterward.) And his “costume” is simple: No shirt. Jeans with the top button unfastened. Done. (That way you can see those sexy “penis pointer” muscles on his hips!)

Spank Him

Spanking appeals to many people because it falls nicely into the “kinky, but not too kinky” category: It's naughty enough to spice things up but not so extreme that it leaves a horrible “Am I weird?” post-sex hangover. Want to give it a whirl? Here's a simple guide:

* Pick a position. The classic you've-been-a-naughty-boy pose is him bent over your knee. But you could also have him stand, lie face down on the bed or kneel on all fours. (Save that last one for later, though, since it can feel a bit threatening for a first time.)

# The more fat and muscle a body part has, the harder a strike it can handle. Since the idea of playful spanking is to cause “pleasant” pain, but no damage, those fleshy, gorgeous orbs known as the buttocks are the obvious place to start.
# Start with your hand for the first spanking session. If you both enjoy it, then you can move onto soft whips, riding crops or paddles. Don't forget to remove any rings or bracelets, though—and use a pumice stone to remove any rough spots on your hands.
# Decide how long you want the session to last. The longer the session is, the lighter the slaps. Intense spanking should be done only for a short period of time.
# Wait until he's aroused before attempting your first spank; he'll be far more receptive to erotic pain. So do a lot of kissingand fondling first and run your fingers lightly over his buttocks. Then place one hand on a buttock cheek, the other on the genitals. Start with the cheek closest to you.

# Your first spank should be more like a caress than a slap. Cup your hand slightly, keep your fingers together and spank in a slightly upward motion. Massage the area for a few seconds afterward and fondle his genitals afterward.
# Does he look intrigued? Try another spank, then another one and another one about 3-5 seconds apart. Vary the weight, frequency and placement of the slaps.
# Now bring out the props you so cleverly hid near the bed: a satin or furry glove or the back of a hairbrush, for example.

If you both enjoyed the session, take a trip to a reputable sex shop (or go online) for some implements. Riding crops are an excellent addition to your toy box. They're good for light or heavy strokes and make a sinister swish and slapping sound, which is a nice touch during fantasy scenarios. They look sexy and they're inexpensive. You'll also find an array of whips. Rubber whips look fierce but are incredibly soft. If you want more, choose one made of soft, light leather. Both soft whips and crops are great for teasing: Have him gently poke the tip of the crop against your clitoris or brush the strands of the whip across his thighs. Paddles, broad, hard instruments, are for true devotees. They cause much more pain, and it's hard to judge how hard you're hitting when using one.



Have Cleavage Sex

Men are obsessed with breasts. (How's that for stating the obvious?) Rather than getting all huffy the next time his head swivels to check out someone else's perky double-Ds, indulge him. Start by stimulating him with manual sex or oral sex. Then lie back, put some lubricant between your breasts, push them together and invite him to thrust between them. Not only will he be awed that you're letting him aim his lethal part straight at your face, he'll never complain about having to sit through Desperate Housewives ever again if you—brace yourself—let him ejaculate on you. Oh, come on… Semen isn't sulphuric acid, you know! A quick wipe with a strategically placed tissue and it's gone.

Get Frisky with Food

We all love eating, but food is also a versatile sex toy: Smear it, drip it on, lick it off! And you can do better than just whipped cream, honey and ice cream. If you're on a diet—even in bed, really?—go for avocados, mangoes, berries and bananas. Many foods, with the exception of hot and spicy ones, are safe to smear on the outside of the genitals, but keep in mind: There are definitely some safety precautions. First and foremost, be overly careful about inserting things. Sugary foods can set off yeast infections. Oily foods have a nasty habit of “eating” through condoms because oil breaks down latex. Never, ever squirt or spray anything into the anus or vagina—not even whipped cream—because it can be dangerous. And food isn't just for smearing, by the way; it's also sexy to actually eat it! Jumping into bed together to devour a tray full of decadent goodies is unbeatably hedonistic. Choose bite-size finger foods that look, taste and feel sexy: strawberries, grapes, chocolate, olives, oysters on ice… You can even warm up (and set the mood for a steamy night) by sharing some hot chocolate.

Escape the cold, the snow and a sexual rut by heading to a local strip club or, better yet, an adult bookstore with a “peep booth.” Peep booths offer a focused, private place for the two of you to satisfy your voyeuristic urges safely. Typically you go inside, sit on a stool or bench, put money or a token into a meter and a screen lifts to reveal an exotic dancer putting on a show behind glass. Sometimes you have no control over what she does, whereas other places allow you to request specific acts or dirty talk (for extra cash of course). If it's a private booth—and most are—it's standard for you two to have sex while she does her thing. However, remember that other people have had sex there before you—so pack some baby wipes and an old towel.

By: Tracey Cox